Golden Year Brainstorming--Thoughts Part 1

Here is the first post for part 1 of the Golden Year Brainstorming--THOUGHTS.
Merci beaucoup to ALL of the collective souls who found time to share.....

*****I would try to let go of all the hurt and anger that comes towards me for reasons I cannot figure out.  I would indulge myself in the healing arts and learning more about how to heal and how to get myself in a "stable" or peaceful state of mind free from "I owe, I owe...." so that I can put my energies and those that come through me into healing others physically and mentally, and into healing situations between groups  or individuals....
In the nursing care that I have been doing, it seems there is a world of time for reflections but at such a late date in life that most are not able to use the mind to reflect at all or are so caught up in failing health that they are either desperate to cling to life or are in so much pain that they pray for death as an out from physical pain.

*****Things off the top of my head...to keep:
Our Unit Manager came up the floor the other day and it was just a madhouse.  Our Unit was nearly full, and we were short a Nurse, CNA, and Unit Secretary.  She was very stressed, but asked how I was doing.  I said "Well, I just keep reminding myself that my track record for making it through days like this is 100% so far!"  Her eyes flew open wide.  She said "I really need to start looking at it like that, don't I?  You're so right!"    
Keep positive self talk
A saying a friend posted one day rang SO true, and everyone needs to remember this, in my humble opinion:
"If you are helping someone and expecting something in return, you are doing business  - not kindness"  (TobyMac #speaklife)
Things to get rid of:
Leave the past in the past-
You don't live there anymore

*****I would want to leave behind a lot of the clutter and the idea that you need to constantly strive to get ahead, and that you have to be in a fast paced society.
I nurture the thoughts and memories of the good times that I have had with family and friends along with those things that I have accomplished through the years.   A person needs to remember to take time for themselves and enjoy the simple things in life.   Go for a walk in the woods and experience all of the good energy that surrounds you.   Take time to look at the flowers and enjoy the beauty of the butterflies as they flutter from flower to flower.  Listen to the sounds of nature as they fill the air.   The birds, frogs, the hoot of an owl, the howl of the wolves and many more.  These creatures only worry about the here and now, they don't fret over what has passed or what is going to come.  If you only spend a little time each day observing nature you will gain more appreciation for the simple things in life.
"Objects are concealed from our view, not so much because they are out of the course of visual ray as because we do not bring our minds and eyes to bear on them."  Henry David Thoreau
"Strange so few ever come to the woods to see how the pine lives and grows spires, lifting its evergreen arms to the light, -- to see its perfect success..."  Henry David Thoreau

*****Nurture:
That your life has value in and of its self. Value beyond that which it gives to others from what you can do for them. You are worth taking care of for you, not so that you can continue to help or care for others. You are valuable and have worth just for you!
Leave behind:
Self doubt!!!

*****For your reflection....
Thoughts are stories that we convince ourselves are real.  Become a lover of reality and move into balance.....now, let go of even THAT thought!

*****Regrets make you wish you could go back and change or relive those moments but for better or worse you cannot. Appreciate and be grateful for what you learned and try to put them behind you.

It took a therapist, not a friend, to make me see how agonizing over feelings you don't want to admit to does nothing to resolving the pain of them. When you are faced with an unpleasant fact about yourself it is better to own up to it. Whether we want to admit it or not most people want to be socially perfect but we all have little feelings or experiences that are not saintly and can make you feel unworthy of people you consider your friends. Life is hard enough without you knocking yourself down. You don't know everyone else's little regrets or embarrassments but know that they too feel those, as intensely as you feel yours. Once you realize that, we are all equal. Don't ever think you are the only one with doubts and insecurities. Everyone has them. Some folks are better at concealing them.

Personal growth happens everyday. We learn through many avenues. Human interaction is multi-dimensional, multi-sensual. A simple interaction in passing can produce profound feelings. I have witnessed this. You have no idea how strongly you can effect others. People are inherently kind and want to help. Never underestimate compassion.

*****Well I suppose what I've taken from life is really simple (not sure why we humans make life hard) but to live a purposeful life. In all we do have purpose & meaning no matter what the task at hand may be make it worth something! Hold value in everyday, love all & let yesterday go. What's the purpose of beating ourselves up?! We should forgive ourselves like we forgive others, or at least we should forgive others!

*****Thoughts to Leave Behind….
Desire to be liked
Desire to be accepted
Have expectations of others
Be perfect
Try to be what others expect

Thoughts to Nurture….
My relationship with others is not dependent on their relationship with me
Bloom Where you are Planted
Be a port in the storm.  Avoid being the storm.
Be Brave
Ask for what you need or at the least, envision it in your life.
To be yourself is to be beautiful.
Expect of yourself only your own personal best.
Roll up your sleeves and dive in - work hard.
Ask for forgiveness and forgive.
Let go…hand it over.  God will carry it.
There is only acceptance.
Offer respect.
…And the Truth Shall Make you Free.
Listen more, talk less.
You can only change your perspective by changing your view.
You can only control yourself, your own mind, your own emotions and your own choices.
Steer Clear of the FOG - Fear. Obligation. Guilt.
Having regrets is okay - it means you tried something, perhaps learned a lesson and changed your mind.
On that train of thought…it’s always ok to change your mind.
Keep moving. Dare Greatly.
Life IS fair. Fair does not mean equal.
Step out of yourself from time to time.

*****I would leave behind all thoughts of self-loathing, insecurity and those that stem from self-doubt or even loathing.

Let's all carry forward the thoughts of what makes us special, wonderful, and uniquely ourselves. Because, unless we can love ourselves, we will never be free to love others. 

*****From Pinterest:
10 things to give up
1. Trying to please, and be acceptable to others
2. The fear of making a mistake
3. The fear of change
4. The fear of the future
5. Guilt or shame that's tied to your past
6. Beating yourself up or putting yourself down
7. Over-thinking
8. Living by your feelings
9. The desire to get even with others
10. The tendency to procrastination

*****Seems like I need to re-watch 10 Things I Hate About You

*****Tell Your Daughter She's...:
1. A Warrior
2.  Brave
3.  A Leader
4.  Curious
5.  Kind Hearted
6.  A Detective
7.  Creative
8.  Strong
9.  Smart
10. Generous
...free spirited, faithful, a team player, a kind sibling, focused, determined, athletic, resourceful, confident, a teacher, a great friend...got it??