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An excerpt from The 100/0 Principle  called All or Nothing...by Al Ritter:

My mom used to say, "If you want to change someone, change yourself first." What my mom was saying was consistent with The 100/0 Principle. Most of us, however, are more familiar with a quite different notion...that a good relationship is based on a 50/50 proposition. I'll do my 50%, you agree to do your 50%, and we'll have a great relationship. The problem, of course, is that when something breaks down in the relationship, each person tends to blame the other—to point the finger as if it were the other person's fault.

A few years ago, a philosopher came up with a new relationship theory: the 100/100 proposition. It goes like this:

"I'll take 100% responsibility, you do the same and we can't miss."

This looked good at first; however, in practice it had the same shortcoming as the 50/50 proposition, namely the blame game. The 100/100 idea has another inherent flaw:

Each person has high, even unrealistic expectations of the other. After all, each person expects the other to take full responsibility.

Roadblocks to 100/0

Jack Canfield, the co-author of the Chicken Soup series of books, has a favorite quote, "If we're not a little uncomfortable every day, we're not growing. All the good stuff is outside our comfort zone."

The roadblocks to effectively implementing The 100/0 Principle are captured in that quote. When we allow our automatic, knee-jerk tendencies to govern our relationships with others, we almost surely stay inside our comfort zone, and avoid the good stuff—the learning, the growth, the unprecedented results available to us.

Most often, the only roadblock to 100/0 is...

Your willingness to suspend judgment and take full responsibility for the relationship.

When you do this authentically, most of the time truly great things will happen.

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The 100/100 idea sounds good for this Maja!!....Story of the Day...Treasures....

Creamy Kale Soup

Serves 2-3 dinner sized portions

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1/2 Cup Green Lentils


1/2 Cup Quinoa (I like to use half-and-half)


1/2 Medium Onion, finely chopped


4 Tbs Olive Oil


1 Small Bunch Kale
5 cups water

Spices


1 tsp Cumin, heaping


1/2 tsp Curry Powder


1 Veg Bouillon Cube


3 Tbs Tahini


2-3 Tbs Tamari or Soy Sauce

Wash and de-stem kale (I use kitchen scissors to cut along the sides of the stems), tear the leaves into smallish pieces.

Heat oil in a large pot over medium heat, and add quinoa and lentils. Saute for a few minutes, add spices and kale. Mix well.

Add water and bouillon cube and bring to a boil.

Cover and turn down heat to low. Simmer for 35-40 minutes.

Carefully blend the hot soup in a food processor or blender and return to pot.

You can skip this step or blend only half of the soup if you want some texture, but I think it’s nicest smooth.

Add tahini and tamari to taste.

To garnish, mix 1-2 Tbs of tahini with a small amount of water until it becomes smooth and bright. Drizzle on top of the soup and serve.